In recent days, we are observing the rising rates of divorce and separation. Marriage is indeed a difficult decision, which testifies your character, trust and patience. This bond is enriched with experiences of love, hate, jealousy, frustration and ignorance, to name a few. The emotional range is wide and unending. Now, the question is how to survive the jolts of this love-hate dyad?
This is the age where spirituality is scarce and materialism is abundant which diminishes the chances for one to seek solace by connecting him or herself with the Greatest Truth of a universe. This realm of materialism predisposes one to concentrate and believe on rational sources (which are limited and bounded) than spiritual one.
Reason advocates relying on personal interpretation of events that provokes a feeling of being in an uncontrollable situation (which off course increases ones anxiety). we commence to reflect on the other side of a picture when we take a leap of faith and trust the divine nature of events and happenings. Thus, we can holistically perceive adversities in different and less pessimistic version where meaning of suffering can be decoded.
Marriage is a work of God.
“It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.”
― Fulton J. Sheen, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary
The absence of trust and faith in the nature of His work can cause vulnerability and weakness within ones soul.
It is not a matter of two people, but in most cultures, it is a connection between two families. The later aspect of a marriage is troublesome for most because it frequently stirs challenges. According to the evidence-based literature, spirituality helps in coping with difficult and unpredictable situations of marital life. Rationalist cannot see beyond the wall and thus stuck in a cycle of cause-and-effect.
Marriage is a journey of mysticism where things appear, change, transform, grow, decline and regrow by time.
“No long-term marriage is made easily, and there have been times when I've been so angry or so hurt that I thought my love would never recover. And then, in the midst of near despair, something has happened beneath the surface. A bright little flashing fish of hope has flicked silver fins and the water is bright and suddenly I am returned to a state of love again — till next time. I've learned that there will always be a next time, and that I will submerge in darkness and misery, but that I won't stay submerged. And each time something has been learned under the waters; something has been gained; and a new kind of love has grown. The best I can ask for is that this love, which has been built on countless failures, will continue to grow. I can say no more than that this is mystery, and gift, and that somehow or other, through grace, our failures can be redeemed and blessed.”
― Madeleine L'Engle
The miraculous nature of this bond is unpredictable and one cannot afford to submit him or herself to mere reasons or senses. The greater goal of any marriage is to grow each other and oneself as well in order to discover the hidden meaning of a mutual destiny
Why we are together?
Why we have been chosen for each other when so many other souls were wandering around?
Because we solely rely on our physical senses which cannot translate the ephemeral clues of wisdom in life. Therefore, we decide, suggest or predict through reasons. I am not talking about extreme cases of violence, shame and dishonesty here, but a general approach. How one should approach or fathom the meaning or purpose of a marriage?
On a psychological level, constant focus on self-strengths is very important. We fill/feed ourselves with resources by pursuing our hobbies.Most of the spouses, especially females, dedicate their mental, physical and emotional selves to their partners. Their lives roam around them and when moments of distress arise, they do not find solace in anything but to go back to the only (conflicting) source they have.
Our lives are intertwined and coloured by each other as ordained by a Higher Entity. The moments of pleasure and pain are part of it. Spiritual insight is imperative to keep impulsivity at bay. In addition, complete reliance on one's partner brings imprudence and (early) emotional fatigue to oneself.
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